How to eat healthy every single day without stressing

How to eat healthy every single day can be really challenging. Through working with women online with nutrition and fitness over the last two years, I’ve found that women struggle for one simple reason: they’re obsessed with food and making the *right* nutrition choices.

This makes it soooo hard to eat healthy, because:

(1) We constantly second guess ourselves. There’s so much information out there that it becomes easy to question if we are doing the right thing for our bodies and minds.

She’s doing keto, should I try keto?

Everyone’s counting macros, maybe I should do that.

Low carb is best, so I have to eat low carb.

We’ve all done this, haven’t we? In our attempts to eat healthy, we question ourselves and make decisions based on what other people online are doing. We perpetuate negative food rules and keep on struggling.

(2) We focus on the wrong things and stop tuning into our bodies/minds, perpetuating obsession around food (more on that here). Obsession makes us restrict. Restricting makes us binge. Binging and restricting make us miserable.

So why do we continue down this same path? It’s pretty simple: because we are not taking our headspace into account.

I propose an alternate solution.

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How to eat healthy every single day

I’ve found that so many other nutrition coaches and programs forget the importance of how you’re thinking about food. And frankly, I’ve been guilty of this as a coach, as well.

Take Metabolic Effect’s HEC model for example.

This model focuses on your hunger, energy, and cravings, which is a great place to start. By tuning into these three areas, we improve our chances of hormonal fat loss, which is great.

But it completely ignores how where our heads are at, which can lead to restriction, obsession, and even binging.

That’s why, I felt compelled to create a new nutrition model to help you automate your eating once and for all so that you can master your eating (heh, get it?).

MASTER your Eating Model

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In the MASTER Model, the goal is to get all of these six elements to a stable, comfortable level.

M – Mindset

Before we dive into nutrition from a physical health perspective.

We’ve GOTTA tackle how it’s impacting your emotional health.

For me, mindset is all about your attitude around food. This is different than the thoughts you have but more, how you’re feeling and experiencing food.

How does food make you feel? What emotions surround eating/food?

A – Appetite

Sooo, how hungry are you?

This question tells so much, so we’ve gotta dive into your hunger levels, when they occur, and how intense they are. If your appetite is out of hand, we’ve gotta fix something.

S – Satisfaction

If your meals aren’t satisfying and you’re constantly craving other food – even (and especially) after meals – something is off in your diet. And frankly, if we’re gonna eat ‘well’ forever, we’ve got to actually like how we eat. When we don’t like the way we eat, when we’re bored, or stressed out, we end up experiencing serious cravings > binging > guilt. This is not where we wanna be. Instead, start considering your satisfaction level throughout the week to keep tabs on it.

T – Thoughts

This is similar to mindset but more specifically, it’s time to tune in and understand which thoughts keep coming up.

If you’re living in a world where your thoughts are constantly about food, we can’t sustain it forever. It’s really important, if long-term, automated eating is the goal, to not obsess over thoughts of food.

E – Energy

Sustainable nutrition fuels your body with energy throughout the day.

If your energy is all over the place or just plain low, we might need to do a deeper dive into what’s going on.

It could be nutrition (not getting enough protein?), exercise (overtraining? Maybe you need help creating a short, effective workout routine), or stress related.

R – Restriction

In some ways, we are back where we started: restriction. When it comes to nutrition, we do not want to ever feel like we are restricting. BUT – often, restriction can be a great warning sign that something else is off in your relationships with food, exercise, and yourself. So don’t beat yourself up for noticing restriction – look at it as a tool. Here’s more support on identifying if healthy eating is actually making you more restrictive.

By implementing this model, you’ll be able to eat healthy every day, stop thinking about it so much, and finally see results.

If you need a little more guidance, take my free quiz below to determine if you’re in control of your eating and exercise. Once you complete the quiz, I can send you personalized suggestions of what to do next.

Is your healthy eating making you unhealthy?

We’re all trying to ‘eat healthy,’ But for some of us, that desire for healthy eating causes us to go overboard.

As a nutrition and restriction recovery coach, I talk to women about nutrition every day. More and more, I’m finding that even if we’re trying for healthy eating, we’re constantly thinking about it.

Maybe you eat plenty of protein and veggies but stress when you want a cookie or a glass of wine (this definitely used to be my main trigger food).

Or every time you go out to eat with friends, you skim the menu and immediately choose the lowest calorie option, because you’re unable to stop counting calories.

Lovely, these situations aren’t healthy, regardless of what foods you’re eating. Healthy eating is SO much more than the foods you eat, so I’ve come up with three questions to ask yourself to determine if you’re on the right track.

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Is healthy eating causing you to restrict?

If your choices are focused on making you restrict/try to eat the smallest amount possible, I don’t care if you’re eating grilled chicken and veggies. It’s not healthy for you.

Is healthy eating making you obsessive?

Are you constantly worrying about making the ‘right’ choices? Do you panic every time that you eat something that’s not ideal? This level of obsession is not what we’re going for.

Instead, we want automated, simple, healthy eating. Here’s one way to think about it. 

What are your reasons behind your healthy eating choices?

Really, it all comes down to your why.

Let me give you an example.

A couple years back, when I still navigating through my restriction recovery journey, I vividly remember having to choose my nighttime snack. I had just discovered Lenny & Larry’s cookies (yes, I’m obsessed) and was loving having them before bed. But on this particular day, I hadn’t worked out and I was going back and forth in my head.

Should I eat the cookie or choose a lower calorie option?
Maybe I should just have greek yogurt..
Or maybe I should skip my nighttime snack all together.
Does the cookie have too many calories?

Ugh…..even just writing out all those thoughts is exhausting. But on that evening, I looked myself in the mirror, said #effrestriction, and ate the damn cookie in a show of protesting my restrictive habits. In that moment, I made the healthiest decision possible.

See, when it comes to our food choices, we have to understand WHY we’re making them and be comfortable choosing what’s right for us, even if it’s different than what would be healthy for someone else.

So if you’re standing in line at Chipotle, trying to choose what to eat and you decide to have a salad because you didn’t workout and you’re stressing about the number of calories in the white rice, that might not be the best option.

The next time you’re making a “healthy” choice, I want you to dive a little deeper and make sure you’re not doing it from a place of restriction, okay? This is especially important if you really wanna be consistent with your eating. If you’re struggling to stay consistent, take the quiz below. It will identify your #1 consistency roadblock, and I can offer you personalized suggestions of what to do next.

How to stop binge eating and heal your relationship with food

Today, we are talking all about how to stop binge eating, specifically how it relates to trigger foods (I break down how to overcome your trigger foods here).

Learn how to stay consistent with your nutrition – binge free – by downloading my #ConsistentNutrition Cheatsheet.

When it comes to how to stop binge eating, we often have to address specific trigger foods that are hard for us to be around. I’ve found that alcohol is one of the most common trigger foods holding my clients back. They have such a tumultuous relationship with booze that they have a hard time incorporating it into their lives, wherever they are on their restriction recovery journey.

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It wasn’t until I started embracing my restriction that I learned to use my trigger foods to stop binge eating

For years, I tried so hard to stop restricting. I battled day and night to eradicate restrictive behaviors from my life. But lovely, that kept me struggling.

In this week’s episode of #RestrictionRevised, I’m talking about MY journey to embrace alcohol as one of my biggest trigger foods (I talk more about trigger foods here).

Now, alcohol helps me get a pulse check of how much restriction is affecting my life. I know that if I’m stressing about having a second glass of wine, it’s time to tune inward.

Instead of beating myself up for restricting, I thank my restrictive tendencies for helping me be more aware of how I’m interacting with food and exercise.

I talk to women every single day who tell me they’re constantly thinking about food and exercise. They’re trying so hard to be perfect with their nutrition and every time they fall short, they’re beating themselves up. This means that they’re continually trying to eat well without getting obsessive.

Enter my FREE Rate Your Restriction quiz.

This is the ultimate solution, because by filling out this super short, 8 question quiz, I can give you personalized coaching advice on what to do to get in control of your eating – and stop letting it control you.

Having a goal of achieving a life without restriction is great but if you don’t have specific guidance on how to get there, you’re just gonna keep struggling. I look around the fitness and nutrition industry and see SO many coaches preaching food freedom and rejecting the perfectionist tendencies but nobody is telling you HOW to actually get there. And let’s be real. That’s sooooo not helpful. So, I felt obligated to create a solution, an actual how-to guide to stop letting nutrition perfectionism control you.

I’m super excited to share this quiz with you! It’s totally free and probably the easiest way to get customized advice on this topic.

Take the quiz below and let me know how it goes!

What’s the problem with food rules?

Food rules. We’ve all got them. We all use them in our daily lives but are they actually making your restriction worse?

It all comes down to what’s behind the rules.

See, our food rules aren’t inherently bad; they’re simply a method to ease decision making around food. We have so many choices to make on what to eat and drink that, without guidelines, we become overwhelmed and make choices that leave us feeling guilty (here’s how I suggest dealing with food guilt) later.

My food rules experience

I’d like to say I’m totally over my obsessive food rules but they definitely still come up. Just a couple weeks ago, I flew six hours to ride 40 miles across NYC and spend four days with my boyfriend’s family (yikes!). Honestly, it was a lot, and I’m confident I would have fallen apart in this situation just a few years ago, when I didn’t recognize and appreciate my restrictive tendencies.

The weekend was filled with lots of Italian food, eaten at a round table, with a bottle of wine to share. This wasn’t really a “problem” until Sunday night – the night of the ride. We finished riding 40 miles (and another 2 to return our bikes – trust me, I felt those 2 miles) and headed to a nice dinner. It was our last meal in the city, in a crowded family style restaurant in Little Italy, and a bottle of wine showed up.

Can you believe that the first thing that popped into my mind was “I can’t drink. It’s Sunday. I don’t drink on Sundays?”

I was diagnosed with my eating disorder 13 years ago, I’ve been ‘recovered’ (off and on) for 10 years, and those thoughts still come up. And I hate to break it to you, lovely, they’re never gonna go away. We’ve just gotta change how we interact with them.

Over the last few years, I’ve made a huge mindset shift away from fighting my restriction, instead using it as my strength and strategy. This has allowed me to completely change my life (no exaggeration).

So as these ‘should’ thoughts crowd my head, I don’t fight them; I use them to help me move forward. This radical shift is so so important if you’re ready to ditch the food obsession trap and finally live your best life.

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So…do I need to fix my food rules?

It depends. Lorie at lemons + zest describes our food rules as ‘our safety net’ and so we almost don’t know how to live without them.

Further, when we’re thinking about our food rules, we’ve got to understand the ‘why’ behind them.

Are they helping you better understand your body?

Are they grounded in a desire to feel physically better – not to shrink or restrict?

Do they make you feel stressed out or obsessive?

Understanding that ‘why’ behind the rules is key to figuring out how to move forward.

If you’re unsure about how to move forward, I’d like to invite you to join my free #NutritionalCertainty365 challenge which starts on September 3, 2018. I’ll break down what you need to do to be 100% sure you’re eating right for YOU, amidst all the noise of social media. You can check it out and sign up here! Can’t wait to get started with you!!!

30 minute EMOM workout for your entire body

Sometimes, the standard 12 reps and 3 round style of workout just gets boring. And that’s totally okay – as long as we know what to do in those situations. Consistency with working out is all about enjoyment (more on that here). During these moments, when I couldn’t force myself to go to the gym or do another HIIT sprint workout, I love a good EMOM workout. Today, I’m sharing one I did recently that left my legs sore for days (woot).

What’s an EMOM workout?

EMOM just means “every minute on the minute.” I like to think of it as a new round starting every minute, so we’re getting in lots of rounds in a short period of time.

Basically, you’ll do each set of prescribed exercises, then rest for the remainder of the minute, starting over again once the next minute begins.

I’ve shared EMOM workouts before, like this five minute burpee finisher, but never a full body workout like this one!

Let’s get started.

30 minute EMOM workout 

For today’s EMOM workout, you’ll need a heavy KB or a couple sets of DBs. In terms of equipment, I recommend these DBs. They’re adjustable and perfect for home workouts.

You’ll go through each EMOM for 10 minutes, making for a thirty minute workout. Ideally, you’d rest for 1-2 minutes between each EMOM but if you need to take more rest do it. These circuits are tough!

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Follow along with me!

Enjoy this workout?

I hope so! If you’re looking for more effective, quick workouts, my #GoldilocksFitness program could be a great fit for you.  If you want a weekly workout plan that will help you STOP overexercising, get CONSISTENT, and see RESULTS, my #GoldilocksFitness Program is for you. I’ve designed a week of workouts for you so that you can rest assured you’ve done just enough. Because the answer isn’t always “more,” and it’s not always “less.” It’s juuuuust right. Check out the details and grab your copy.

5 reasons to ignore the number of calories burned during exercise

When I first start working with my female clients, one of their top concerns is how many calories they should burn in a workout. They’re a little obsessed with their FitBit (I do love the FitBit Surge….) or Apple Watch calorie burn estimates. They’re hyperaware of how many calories running a mile burns. And while awareness can be helpful, estimating the number of calories burned during exercise keeps us from seeing long term results.

Yes, fat loss is a result of proper energy balance (read: expending more energy than you take in). But, if we focus TOO much on the number of calories burned during exercise, we’re going to struggle. And that, my friends, is why I encourage my clients to completely ignore the number of calories burned during exercise. Instead, we focus on the things that actually matter to changing our bodies.

When they ask me why, I’ve got plenty of reasons to ignore the number of calories burned during exercise. Here are my top 5 reasons to ignore that pesky calorie burn estimate on your Apple Watch.

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It’s inaccurate.

Whether you’re using the treadmill calorie estimate or your Fitbit output, the number may not actually be very accurate. Most of these devices simply use your weight + duration to determine an estimated calorie burn. Obviously, this is not super accurate, because it ignores many factors:

  • How much muscle you have
  • How hard you’re actually working

Even if you’re using an implement that tracks your heart rate, you can’t rely on that to be 100% accurate either. Traditional heart rate monitors and wrist based trackers are not designed for circuit training or lifting, making them less accurate at reading your heart rate during these activities. I know this from personal experience. So many times, I’m doing super heavy barbell squats and my Garmin reads my heart rate in the 90s (yaaaa…no).

It encourages the “burn it off” mentality.

When we start counting, tracking every calorie we burn, we’re on a slippery slope. Once we count our workout calories, it’s a natural progression to start counting the calories we eat. This can be SO hard to stop (I wrote about how to stop it without stressing here), and it perpetuates the idea that we need to burn off every calorie we eat.

With most of my clients, we find better success losing weight without counting calories (here’s how) and skipping the idea that exercise is a punishment, a way to burn off our nutrition mistakes.

It ignores EPOC (aka – afterburn).

If we only think about the calories burned during exercise, we ignore the fact that certain types of training (think metabolic conditioning and heavy weight training) raise your metabolic rate for HOURS after you finish your workout. 

It encourages steady state, long duration cardio.

When all we’re thinking about is how many calories we can burn in a workout, we seek out exercise that’s going to give us the biggest number.

And what exercise shows the largest calorie burn, as estimated by a machine or heart rate monitor?

Steady state cardio for long periods of time…

And while this style of training has its benefits, it does NOT raise your metabolic rate after you finish your workout and can negatively impact your hunger and cravings (think RUNger aka intense hunger after you finish a run).

Of course, if you’re training for an endurance event or just love cycling, go for it. Do long duration cardio. Just know, that it is not the most effective way to train for body change.

It diminishes the importance of muscle building.

Look. Workouts are about MORE than burning calories; for many of us, they’re about building strength and muscle mass.

When we’re thinking too much about our calorie burn, we forget that building muscle is KEY to fat loss and achieving that ‘toned’ look. When we have more muscle on our bodies, we burn more calories at rest, something completely ignored in these calorie tracking models.

Lovely, I get it. You’re tracking those calories because you wanna see results so damn bad. And let’s be real. Don’t we all wanna see results from our workouts?

If you want a weekly workout plan that will help you STOP overexercising, get CONSISTENT, and see RESULTS, my #GoldilocksFitness Program is for you. I’ve designed a week of workouts for you so that you can rest assured you’ve done just enough. Because the answer isn’t always “more,” and it’s not always “less.” It’s juuuuust right.

Check out the details and grab your copy here.

End Food Guilt: Your Ultimate Guide

At least once a week, I hear from women who are struggling with food guilt. Whether they’re eating a macro that used to be completely off limits, over-indulging on weekends, or simply having one too many snacks throughout the day, they’re overwhelmed by feelings of guilt. They’re constantly questioning if they’ve eaten the *right* foods and obsess over what to eat next, thinking that every decision is going to make or break their fat loss progress. 

It does not have to be that way. Food guilt doesn’t have to derail our lives (or progress towards our fitness goals). In fact, it can be a great source of data in automating our nutrition (here’s how I do it). Because at the end of the day, if we can’t find ease with nutrition, we won’t see results.

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So how do we stop feeling guilty when we eat certain foods?’s pretty simple. We have to STOP classifying food as moral: good or bad, clean or unclean. None of these categorizations help us reach our goals and actually make food guilt WORSE (this is why I HATE the concept of clean eating).

Now, if you’re struggling with specific foods, check out my post on how to overcome your trigger foods. But if weekends are your problem…keep reading.

Often, many women will say, “My weekends are the problem. I eat well all week but by the time the weekend rolls around I overdo it and feel guilty.” Whether or not weekend eating is actually keeping you from reaching your goals (find out here), I suggest the following approach to guilt-free weekends.

But how do I get out of a food guilt spiral?

Below, I break down, step-by-step what to do if you’re in the middle of a food guilt spiral. In order for us to use food guilt to help our relationship with food, we’ve first gotta stop stressing in the moment.

Once you’re out of that food guilt spiral, it’s time to USE that food guilt as data to improve your relationship with food. You can do this by using my 321 System to End Food Guilt. I wrote all about it here but you can also download a workbook on the topic.

Food guilt doesn’t have to be part of your life. Following these steps will allow you to be free of food guilt and find a bit more ease with your nutrition.

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Eating Disorder Recovery: 5 impossible things I now do daily

It’s national Eating Disorder Awareness week! This year, I’m partnering with the National Eating Disorders Association to pull back the curtain on ED and share our stories. So, I thought it would be only fitting to share mine.

As you may know, I grew up with ED. For thirteen years, it was my constant companion. I had a brutal battle with anorexia for over ten years. It made my high school and college years miserable at times. My ED made me, at 5’7″, beat myself up when I could no longer fit into size 2 jeans (thank GOD I found Stitch Fix). It made traveling a stressful nightmare, lost me a job I loved, and taxed relationships with my family and friends. 

ED made me a shadow of the person I wanted to be, obsessed with whether or not I was eating a small or medium apple (cuz ya know – that’s a 20 calorie difference).

During this period of my life, I couldn’t imagine a world where I wasn’t constantly counting calories (stop without stressing about it using these steps). Now, years later, I live my life without letting my ED run my life and handle the thoughts as they come up (here’s how I handle them when they come up). This is a life I never thought was possible.

So, in honor of #NEDAwareness Week, I’m sharing 5 things I do almost every day in 2018 that I would have thought impossible a few years ago. My friends, recovery IS possible. Get free help here, too.

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I have no concept of how many grams of carbs I’ve eaten today.

My ED began when I started counting calories after reading a Seventeen magazine article. For years, I could recall the number of calories in a Lemon Balance Bar, 1/3 cup of carrots, and just about any other food I’d eaten on the regular. I didn’t think it was possible to maintain (or lose) weight without tracking calories (here are 7 ways…).

Flash forward to 2018, and I’ve retired MyFitnessPal for good.

I follow the nutrient timing guidelines I give my #ConsistentlyLean ladies, eat plenty of protein and veggies, and drink alcohol a few times a week – all without tracking, counting or measuring.

The best part? I’m even more consistent (grab some of my best nutrition consistency tools here).

I take off my tank top during hot yoga

My entire life has been a battle against my belly. I’ve always been self conscious about my stomach – and written about this extensively. Even though I’m (mostly) over wanting a six pack, I’ve never been one to take off my shirt, run in just a sports bra, or be comfortable in a bikini.

Soooo, you can imagine how crazy it is to me that when I go to Corepower hot yoga, I’m ditching my tank top.

While I’m still not donning a bikini at the beach, I am clear that my stomach doesn’t define me and chasing the perfect, chiseled six pack goes against EVERYTHING I want for my clients. That truth is what keeps my eyes on my own mat and stops me from stressing about what I *should* look like.

I’ve put my scale in the garage.

Hold the phone. I’m no longer stressing about being up three pounds on any given day? That’s frankly an eating disorder recovery miracle.

For so many of us, the scale holds immense power. I remember climbing on the scale on Sunday mornings, absolutely disgusted at the higher number that resulted from my eating sooo inconsistently on weekends (here’s how to stop falling off the wagon).

And in fact, it’s only been in the last month or so that I’ve officially ditched my scale. With regaining the weight I lost during my breakup last fall, it’s become way too stressful to weigh myself. But instead of letting the fear of weight gain rule my life, I’m not using the scale anymore, instead focusing on other measure, like how my clothes fit (still fine btw).

I no longer see myself as a runner.

Running used to be my whole life. I ran cross country all through high school and put at least 30 miles in every week during college. It was impossible for me to comprehend a world where I wasn’t running 3+ miles daily. My psychiatrist once told me that my love of running might be fueled by my ED – I told her to eff off.

But I worked through my eating disorder recovery, I found that my heart wasn’t able to handle running long distances anymore. This was incredibly hard to bear.

I remember sitting in my doctor’s office, the crinkly hygienic paper under my butt, tears streaming down my face as my doctor told me I had to stop running – my heart wasn’t capable of handling the stress.

Looking back now, I’m grateful; this is when I discovered lifting weights and began my journey to transform my body without endless cardio.

Today, I view myself as an athletic woman, a lifter, and a coach. Sure, I may still go out and run races but those times don’t define me anymore.

I eat dark chocolate every single day.

Restriction was my jam. It made me feel powerful and strong during my eating disorder years. Even years into my eating disorder recovery, I had a really hard time letting myself indulge in anything that wasn’t nutritious. This is a huge part of why I didn’t drink alcohol before I turned 21 – I couldn’t let myself drink anything that had calories.

With lots of work, I found ways to structure indulgence in my life so that it became more normal. And now, I teach other women to do the same using my #consciousindulgence framework (taught in my #ConsistentNutrition cheatsheet).

I’ll have dark chocolate – in some form – every single day, without guilt (learn to ditch food guilt here) or stress. This has made going out to eat so much easier because now I can have a few bites of any dessert, without hating myself!

My friends, eating disorder recovery IS possible. It’s hard. It takes a long ass time. The thoughts are always there. But living outside of ED is worth every extra bite, tear, and breakdown. You got this. If you want more support and accountability from me, join my tribe! 

Using Food Guilt to Improve Your Relationship with Food – My 3-2-1 System

Valentine’s Day should actually be called “National Eat Chocolate and Drink Wine Day.” But for many of us, with chocolate and wine comes an unwelcome date – food guilt. Research shows that 80% of women (and 70% of men) feel guilty about their food decisions. Although these numbers feel a little startling, they are definitely not a surprise, are they?

For YEARS, food guilt was my constant companion (especially as I tried to stop counting calories – more on that here). Straying from my normal eating routine left me overwhelmed with guilt that felt like I had swallowed an entire chocolate cake.

Most Saturday mornings started with me walking to the bathroom and pulling up my shirt to look at my bloated belly, tears rolling down my face. I felt disgusted, guilty, and so frustrated with myself for indulging. This food guilt perpetuated a super unhealthy relationship with food where I constantly restricted my calories and obsessed (stop obsessing about trying to eat perfectly using these tips) over everything I put into my mouth.

Here’s the thing.

Food guilt sucks. It’s uncomfortable. It makes us think too much, and it keeps us from having a healthy relationship with food (my girl Lindsey Smith, the Food Mood Girl, has some great advice on this in her newest book Eat Your Feelings – check it out for more support on improving your relationship with food). However negative these feelings may be, they are not all bad.

Food guilt helps us understand the underlying beliefs and behaviors that are triggering us. This allows us to understand them, interrupt them, and improve our relationship with food.

If we can use food guilt as a source of data we can get more consistent, and stop thinking about food all the time. I’ll show you how to use food guilt as a tool to automate your eating and rebuild your relationship with food. It’s as simple as (my) 321 (system).

How to use food guilt to improve your relationship with food

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3 – Ask why 3x

As soon as you start feeling guilty about something you ate, stop immediately and start asking questions.

Well – one question (why?), three times. We ask multiple times to get a little deeper each time. 

Often, as we continue to probe ourselves, we identify the true reasons we’re feeling guilty. A couple common reasons include:

  • perfectionism
  • fear of gaining weight
  • fear of not being good enough
  • restriction
  • the belief that we need to eat a certain way and deviating is something we *shouldn’t* do. (if you’re struggling with an eating disorder, please please please seek help. An online therapist might be a great place to start).

The key here is to let yourself get uncomfortable. With each answer, continue probing WHY until you feel as if you’ve made it to the real truth about why you’re dealing with guilt.

I walk you through exactly how to do this in the video below.

2 -find two reasons to be compassionate with yourself

This tends to be even harder than #1. Food guilt sends into this downward spiral of talking down to ourselves and making ourselves feel bad for one little decision.

Instead of getting on this negative train and spinning out of control, take time to consciously think of two reasons you should be compassionate with yourself. Again, food guilt is just data, helping us uncover the beliefs we have around food that are making us miserable.

If this is really tough for you, think about what you would say to your best friend, your sister, or your mom. You’d probably be way nicer to her! So turn that love around on yourself.

Below, I break down how I work through tough food guilt situations and try to find a bit more compassion in the moment.

1-spend one minute planning how you want to handle the situation next time

A lot of the time, when we make decisions that cause food guilt, we believe it is a spur of the moment thing.

All the sudden, you had this craving, gave in, and ate too much.

You went to happy hour and planned to have one glass of wine but before you know it, you need to call an uber home. 

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But let’s be real.

That’s not usually the case. Usually, there are behaviors we aren’t even aware of that set us up to fail. Instead of continuing blindly, let’s break them down, see what’s really going on, and come up with a plan.

When we have a plan in place, we are less likely to slip into behaviors that will make us feel guilty. It doesn’t need to be elaborate but just figure out how you want to deal with the situation in the future. That’s why I love Eat Your Feelings as a resource. It helps us understand how to deal with our triggers in the moment AND prevent them. 

Lovely, if food guilt is still making you feel small, I created this system for you. If it helps, download my 321 system worksheet. I break everything down step-by-step so you can implement it in your own life. Grab it below!

Consistency isn’t enough – 3 reasons your fat loss progress has stalled

You’re ready to see changes in your body but don’t wanna get obsessive or stressed about fat loss. #ConsistentlyLean Coaching could be the perfect fit for you. 

So many online coaches tout the importance of consistency to seeing results. And to be real, it’s a HUGE part of the fat loss equation, because without consistency, results will be impossible.

But, truth is, we need more than consistency to see lasting results.

I chat with women every single day who are exercising multiple times a week, eating *mostly* healthily, and just SO frustrated that they are not seeing results. So, I’m writing this post for these ladies.

If your fat loss journey has stalled, check yourself and one of these three mistakes could be why.

3 reasons your fat loss progress has stalled

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You’re not mixing it up

Our bodies are incredibly smart, and they adapt pretty dang quickly to our exercise and nutrition routines. If we don’t continually change things, progress will stop.

One of the most frustrating things is when we are already working out, trying our best on our own to make our body change, but not seeing results.

This happened to me for YEARS as I slogged my way through 60+ minute workouts every day. I thought I was doing everything right, training correctly, and doing what mattered to results. Still, week after week, my body remained unchanged. This left me looking in the mirror, thinking that I would never be able to see changes.


If you’ve been training for a while and results have stalled, that does not mean that you’ll never reach your goals. It just means that you need to make a change to your workout routine. To determine if changes might be necessary, ask these two questions:

  1. Are my workouts still challenging me? If you’ve been doing the same thing for a while, your body knows and has adapted. This is why it’s so important to follow a periodized training program that changes things up often and keeps your body guessing. You can try to do this alone (this post may help) or you can join a program like #ConsistentlyLean where a coach does it for you.
  2. Am I getting enough rest? Often, we are working too hard AND under-recovered, leading to elevated stress levels and stalled results. So, if you’re feeling a bit worn down, that could be playing into your stalled results. Check this out if you’re wondering how many rest days you *actually* need.

Your nutrition isn’t supporting your goals

If our workouts are consistent and changing every few weeks, our exercise routine might not be the problem and we may need to take a look at our nutrition.

When clients come to me with stalled results and their workout routine has been variable and consistent, I tend to see two main issues – maybe you’re struggling with one of these?

Not enough protein

So many ladies are deficient in protein, and this is incredibly problematic when we’re also trying to lose body fat or gain lean muscle.


Having a high protein diet is one of the best tools that we have to preserve a high metabolic rate and reduce hunger while we’re limiting our overall caloric intake. Lovely, this is why protein is a key component of the #ConsistentlyLean nutrition curriculum (grab your spot before February 4 to take advantage of the program’s lowest price of the year!).

Protein (1) takes more energy to digest, (2) keeps us fuller longer, and (3) helps manage cravings.

So, if your workouts aren’t the issue, try bulking up your protein intake using one of my top protein foods (see here).

Too much restriction, leading to over-indulgence

We often believe that the only way to see results is to severely restrict what we eat on a day-to-day basis. And while being in a calorie deficit is necessary to losing body fat, when we restrict too much, our willpower is depleted, we get frustrated, and we end up in what I call “fuck-it moments.”

These are the times when we are so depleted/exhausted/worn out by our diets that we swing the complete opposite way, eating or drinking everything in sight.

Instead, I encourage my #ConsistentlyLean ladies to indulge every single day, using #myconsciousindulgence framework every single day.

Consciously indulging helps us stop switching between depriving ourselves and binging by indulging, mindfully, daily.

A conscious indulgence is anything that makes us feel satisfied and indulged but not overstuffed or guilty. It should be a component of a meal or snack-not an entire plate of food.

By incorporating indulgences into our daily eating, we do two things:

1) Reduce the likelihood of overindulging because we feel deprived

2) Normalize indulgences so we do not feel guilty about them

Wanna try it out?

Every day, we review the day ahead and plan where we’ll need an indulgence. If we know that we have a work dinner, plan to indulge at the restaurant. Maybe nighttime eating is a challenge, so we plan to have some Halo Top ice cream or a sweet protein bar before bed. The key is CONSCIOUSLY choosing our indulgence every day so eating doesn’t become mindless AND we become more comfortable with treating ourselves without guilt.

Learn more about this strategy in my #ConsistentNutrition cheat sheet or work with me 1:1 on it in #ConsistentlyLean.

Your workouts aren’t intense enough

Maybe you’re working out 3+ times a week. You’re mixing up your routine and trying new things constantly. But as consistent as you are, the results in the mirror have completely stopped.

If that’s the case, we’ve gotta be sure that the actual workouts we’re doing are preserving or building lean muscle mass, because lean muscle is what keeps our metabolic rate high, even at rest.

Not sure if your workouts fit the bill? Try out these three tips to making your workouts (appropriately) intense.

Focus on full body workouts

One of the biggest mistakes I see is focusing waaaay too much on small muscle groups. I blame this on Pinterest and all of the workout pins promising tone our flabby arms or spot reduce belly fat. We find a pin promising to get rid of bat wings, so we do an hour of triceps extensions and wonder why we still have fat on our arms. Yikes.

While there is some benefit in doing upper/lower body split workouts (example), when we’re aiming for a short effective workout routine, we gotta get efficient.

And full body workouts are efficient (see my full body workout archives here) because by working both your upper and lower body, you force your body to work harder during your workout. Working harder = more calories burned = more results

How to implement:

Instead of doing workouts that focus on a single muscle group, work your entire body. Alternate between upper and lower body exercises within a single workout.

Combine cardio and weight training

When it comes to an effective workout routine, we want to find ways to get our cardio and strength training in a single workout. This saves time and can help speed up our results/push through plateaus.

How to implement:

Do not read this tip as: add some strength training to your long cardio workout. That was the mistake I made that kept me struggling. Instead, you can do one of two things.

  1. Add a cardio finisher or primer to your strength workout. Think 5-10 minutes of super intense cardio intervals (like sprints) that you add to the beginning or end of your workout.
  2. Incorporate cardio exercises into your strength routine. Here is a workout where I do exactly that. You’ll notice it works your full body, uses compound movements, and combines cardio and strength.

Lift heavy for you

Doing strength training with weights that are too light for us is not gonna help us achieve any of our goals. In order to force our bodies to change (and show us the results we’re waiting for), we have to challenge them (AKA lift heavy).

How to implement:

Grab heavy weights for YOU in that SPECIFIC exercise. It should be difficult to complete the last 2-3 reps of any exercise, and yes, that means you will ideally have multiple sets of weights.

I wrote an entire article on the topic, if you’d like more information on choosing the appropriate weight.

What now?

I know. Fat loss is hard. We can try to do absolutely everything right and STILL not see the results we’re hoping for. With awareness around these four lies, you can start trying to implement all of these changes on your own and make progress towards your goals.

But, if you want a done-for-you exercise and nutrition program, designed to help you lose fat and change the shape of your body without restriction or obsession, #ConsistentlyLean Coaching is for you. Obsession over the details is what’s keeping us from reaching our goals, so Consistently Lean will teach you how to move, eat, and think in a way that gets you the results you’re looking for, without stress. Get on the waitlist now!