Ideas on Self Hate: Courtesy of the FitCast

Guys! We made it to Tuesday! How’d your Monday go? Mine was quiet!

Today, I would like to talk a little bit about mindset.

Over the weekend, I listened to (and was so inspired by) the most recent episode of one of my favorite podcasts, The Fitcast. Episode 371 was full of some incredible nuggets of wisdom, so I highly recommend you check it out.

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One of the reasons that this episode spoke to me so deeply was that it discussed one of my main motivations for pursuing personal training: self hate. I know, might not be what you expected but hear me out. Kevin and Josh have a conversation about a primer written for the fitness industry that:

Outlines all of the research that says the more we stigmatize weight, basically the more we self hate, [the less we…] see a doctor, study about fitness, see a trainer, work out, eat good food, cook [healthily. Basically, it] decreases every single activity that would make a difference for weight loss. […]

All of the evidence would indicate that stigmatizing weight and feeling bad about your body correlates with a decrease in every activity we would consider healthy and fit. 


With all of that, so many of us approach fitness from a place of self hate, using exercise as a punishment or limiting ourselves based off of our physical appearance. Some examples?

  • “UGH. Look at my stomach. I need to do more ab work.”
  • “I can’t believe I just ate/drank that. I’ll need to workout extra hard tomorrow.”
  • “I’ll ask him out, buy that dress, or go for that promotion once I lose 10 lbs.”

This. Must. Stop. We need to change the dialogue, and I want to be a part of that change.

Some folks would say loving your body how it is today impedes you from progressing but I completely disagree. Self hate may motivate in the short term but it also creates the kind of hateful self talk that turns your body or food choices into good or bad.

Intrinsic motivation does not come from self hate; it comes from love and a desire to be the best version of you, whatever it looks like that day. Striving to be the best YOU, as opposed to trying to fix yourself.

Lovely, you don’t need fixing. I want to become a trainer so I can help reshape the fitness dialogue to support women in using fitness to live fuller lives rather than shrink themselves.

  • “I want to improve my core strength to protect my back and enable me to continue squatting, deadlifting, pulling myself up over the bar, and picking up my pup.”
  • “Maybe I didn’t make the best nutrition choices. I’ll get back on track tomorrow so I feel physically and mentally better.”
  • “I’ll ask him out, buy that dress, DO ALL THE THINGS, right now.”

Let me know your thoughts!

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