You’ve got family coming over in an hour, the turkey is nowhere close to done, and you still haven’t showered. There’s no way you have enough wine to get through this day. Hello Thanksgiving 2016. I don’t know about you, but that situation does not sound like one conducive to working on my mindfulness.
Sure, practicing mindfulness is all well and good when life is going your way. We know there are tons of benefits, so it can be pretty easy to incorporate into your daily life on most days. But what about those days when everything goes wrong?
Here’s how I stay mindful when life gets tough.
Well, maybe we should take a step back.
Why care about mindfulness
If you’re anything like me, when you hear “mindfulness” or “meditation” your anxiety immediately rises. My mind is filled with images of sitting cross legged, in silence, trying to banish the thoughts bombarding my subconscious.
But stay with me.
Once I started to do some research, I realized I couldn’t discount mindfulness anymore. Mindfulness has so many incredible benefits that even I had to give it another look.
A few of the benefits that speak to me?
- Reduced rumination (AKA spinning on the same thought for hours)
- Stress reduction
- Relationship satisfaction
- Less emotional reactivity
Again, all this is great but how can you implement this into your stressful times, like Thanksgiving Day?
Well, I ask myself just one question:
What kind of person do I want to be?
Every time I begin to get stressed out, frustrated, or just plain annoyed, I ask myself this question and remind myself of my answer.
Present, passionate, and confident
Using these three words, I can refocus my energy and actions to be more aligned to who I want to be.
What can I do right now to be more present? More passionate? More confident?
It’s simple but it really helps me to cut through the bullshit and start acting like the person I want to be. So, the next time you’re feeling stressed, angry, or like everything is out of control, ask yourself what kind of person do you want to be? Use that answer to shape your next steps!
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I always go back to these strategies when life gets tough, and I hope they serve you, too!
Do you practice mindfulness?